It is hard to choose hotel based on reviews. There is always someone who is unhappy and they always sound believable with valid concerns.

I am getting dizzy from looking at so many.

So I have finally booked one, though it is fully refundable for few more weeks, so I can still keep looking.

I got this one:

https://www.marriott.com/hotels/travel/hnljw-jw-marriott-ihilani-resort-and-spa-at-ko-olina/

Using "5th night free" promotion we average $262 before tax for an oceanview room, so that is what we did.
Unfortunately that hotel does not allow government rate for leisure travel - at $177 it would be great. Sigh. Most Marriotts allow it, but not this location.

If we get the cheapest advance purchase rate, it would be $249 per day for a garden view room. $299 for oceanview. The view is not worth $50 a day to me, but it is worth $12.

Parking at $29 per day is steep.
In comparison, cheapest car rental I could find is $31 per day - including tax.

Since it is a resort, we are not entitled to free breakfasts we would get in any other Marriott as gold members (we just lost platinum status).

I am not completely sure about my choice, but I could not find a better one so far. Does anyone have suggestions?